My achieved statuses would include:
- Guy who likes Reggae music
- Guy with a red beard
- Father of a Child with Autism
Whether we like it or not, my son holds the ascribed status of Autistic. I'm sure that we can agree, that status should not be his master status, defining him and consequently limiting what he can expect to achieve in his life. Since we all agree, that's why this post isn't about that. This post is about MY master status.
I spent about eight months last year, leading up to Joseph's diagnosis, mostly quietly, reading articles, watching videos and learning about autism. Once we got his diagnosis in August, it grew to consume a large part of my life. "Father of a child with Autism" became my master status, an ascribed one, probably because it's the one that I felt (and still often feel) least suited to handle, it's certainly the one that challenges me the most. Maybe because it lets me know that I'm not just a dad who has a hard time "handling" his kid.
So I don't want my son's master status to be "Autistic" and I don't want my daughter's master status to be "Sister of Autistic Guy," so can "Father of a child with Autism" be my own master status? Does that, by extension, make his master status in my eyes "Autistic"? Is there something wrong with that? For my sake, for my son's?